I said to her that I wanted to be careful how I respond, because homosexuals feel very passionate about this issue. Despite what many might believe, we are not here to condemn homosexuals but to reach out to them. The homosexuals of today are our hope of tomorrow. I have written articles on such things in the past with a tone that I now regret. The Lord is changing my heart to be more mature and more loving.
As I watched the news this morning, listening to the arguments of the court in hearing the attorneys’ points, I thought maybe I should share something. Everyone is jumping on the gay marriage band wagon. Its like the boat no one wants to miss. Hillary Clinton, who was widely known as being pro-homosexual came out in favor of gay marriage a few days ago, which was no surprise to anyone. I see this as a political move more than anything, since she disapproved of gay marriage when her husband ran for president. Many on both sides of the aisle, republican and democrat, are doing the same thing.
Gay marriage has become the en vogue thing to support. My assistant pointed out to me yesterday how so many of her Facebook friends had changed their profile picture to the equal rights symbol. Homosexuality has become widely accepted in today’s culture. Those fighting for homosexual rights equate it to the equal rights of the sixties for blacks, and many black leaders like Dr. Martin Luther King’s wife have joined their cause in agreement.
It seems that everyone is choosing sides quickly to be seen on the right side of history. I won’t list all the various names, but one of recent is evangelist Rob Bell.
*”Speaking recently at Grace Cathedral in San Francisco, he officially came out in support of marriage equality. “I think the ship has sailed and I think the church needs—I think this is the world we are living in and we need to affirm people wherever they are,” Bell continued.”
Honestly, I think he’s right on one point that seems to be a point of reality, that “the ship has sailed.” This seems to be a battle that the church has lost. I would draw a sharp distinction though in his word “affirm.” I think we are going to have to accept the reality of the culture that we find ourselves in, however “affirm” is not a word the church should be using. Affirm means to call something good and to show approval of. I do believe though, that we need to accept how people choose to show and receive love, as hard as that my sound.
Our reality is that the clock is not going to be reversed, all the liberal gains in our culture are not going to be undone. Homosexuality is widely accepted and if not now, very soon we will have gay marriage, most likely nationwide. Will the Supreme Court ignore this growing tide of acceptance? Only time will tell, but it is unlikely.
I made my choice a long time ago, and I’m thankful for it. I believe God’s plan for one man and one woman in marriage and in family is best, but not everyone agrees with this for their lives.
We are never going to win anyone over to the side of God’s love and His great plan for their life by yelling condemnation and certainly not by holding signs and using bullhorns. We must be careful with the words and tone we use. However, we must not feel this need to join sides to be on the right side of history. Calling something that is wrong right, so it can be used to your political advantage is certainly not what we are called to do as believers in Christ. Doing what is right is often seen as wrong, but what is more important than that is doing it in a spirit of love.
Someone asked me this morning on Facebook, “How did you escape the gay lifestyle?” My answer was, “Really a God thing. Had a couple love on me. The Lord was working on my heart. I got saved at a Christian event. It wasn’t easy. Long maturing process but I count most everything to God and Him directing me.” It certainly was not a sermon or lecture of how wrong or evil my lifestyle was.
If there had been gay marriage back then, I’d probably have pursued it. I had a partner that I would have wanted to marry, however he was put in prison for vehicular manslaughter, taking him out of my life. Having marriage available wouldn’t have changed that I was going from relationship to relationship, trying to fill a God sized void in my life.
I’d really rather see marriage preserved for one man and one woman, however it seems that the growing tide is not on conservatism’s side. It seems that it rarely ever is on anything nowadays.
The question is now not whether we will have gay marriage or not, but what is going to be our response. If we show disdain for people, will they want what we have? What do we have if we are showing hate? It’s not Christianity. The Lord never showed contempt for the sinner. He loved them. I was loved by people into the Kingdom, that’s how I am here today.
Regardless of how this turns out, we must love one another if we are going to win anyone over to Christ. If your heart is filled with anger towards gays having marriage, then ask The Lord to change your heart. Ask to have His perspective, His heart. He loves everyone, including gays desiring marriage, and His will is that no one perish. How will they know Him, unless we show them, unless we love them, unless we pray for them. Let’s be the hands and feet of Jesus.
Let’s not affirm gay marriage or homosexuality, but let’s learn to accept people where they are, to pray for them, and to love them. Let’s leave the rest up to The Lord, and just maybe the homosexual couple you know will profess Christ as Lord and who knows what will happen.
I am living proof that God changes lives, and there are many men and women, young and old that are a part of our ministry as such examples.
* Source: Religious Dispatches, March 18, Evangelical Star Rob Bell Comes Out For Marriage Equality Post by NICOLE GREENFIELD